Wednesday, April 30, 2008

There's No Place Like Home

Yesterday was a weirdly emotional day (and you know me, I'm never emotional). As I was shutting down my computer at Jack for the last time, my cell phone rang and it was my realtor, Liz, telling me our offer on a home in west Santee had been accepted by the sellers.

our possible new domicile

Yay! I now have the next five days off before I start the new job at Illumina on Monday. As for the house, it's a short sale, so while the buyers accepted the offer, we now have to wait and see if the bank does. Which means it could be a relatively short escrow or a pretty long one, depending on how big the bank's pile of offers is.

New beginnings, indeed!

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Kashi Goodness

A few weeks ago, we received an invitation from Kashi (we get their newsletter) to a natural foods cooking class they were having in San Diego. Always up for something interesting, I RSVP'd for myself and John.


We went today and it was a blast! We arrived at the International Culinary School at the Art Institute of San Diego right at 1 p.m., and were ushered inside after signing two releases (one of which was because we they were going to be filming us for their website). We went up to the culinary school, where we mingled at tables while the Chef gave us a basic orientation. Some folks from Kashi then welcomed us and said we were going to cook today using natural foods.

Chef giving us orientation

There was no catch to it - we were there to learn how to cook healthy foods! There were about 40 of us, and we were split into two groups - 20 in each kitchen. Once in the kitchen, we divided into 6 tables, and got to work on our recipes. We had the spring cabbage rolls, which you can see here:Our basic ingredients


Halfway through making the spring rolls


John with the finished product

The best part? In the end, we all brought out our various dishes (there were six different ones total) and they were served buffet-style for us all to eat. The food was outstanding, and quite easy to make. It just goes to show that using fresh, local ingredients really does make a difference.

Kudos to Kashi (based in La Jolla, Calif.) and their crew for putting on such a cool event! We had a lot of fun meeting other Kashi fans and making food, and we learned a few things as well.

Friday, April 25, 2008

Great White Shark Kills Man in Solana Beach

My grandmother in New Jersey called my mother, worried that us and the dog are okay, because this story's all over the national news. I love my relatives, but these are the same people who call worried when they hear there's been an earthquake in California -- not realizing that San Francisco is 8 hours away. To their credit, this shark fatality occurred in the town we actually live in: Solana Beach.

For the record, even though we live two blocks from the beach in Solana Beach, John and I were at work, and Xander was sleeping on our bed when it happened (though, were he in the water, I'm sure his black body swimming around would have looked like shark bait, i.e., a seal).

Shark kills man in rare fatal attack in California

Fri Apr 25, 2008 2:37pm EDT

By Mike Blake

SOLANA BEACH, California (Reuters) - A man was attacked and killed by a shark in the ocean near San Diego on Friday, the first person to die in a shark encounter off the Southern California coast in nearly 50 years.

The man was swimming with a group of athletes at Solana Beach, north of San Diego, when he was bitten by the shark, said Deputy Fire Chief Dismas Abelman. His identity was not immediately released.

Abelman said rescue crews responding to frantic calls at about 7 a.m. PDT found the man, believed to be in his 50s, being dragged from the sea with grievous injuries.

"They saw the victim with very severe injuries being pulled out of the water by a group of swimmers he had been swimming with," he said.

An air ambulance was summoned to the beach but the man, who had severe trauma to both legs, was pronounced dead before he could be taken to a hospital, Abelman said.

Area beaches were closed to swimmers and authorities were using helicopters to search for the shark. Abelman said the shark would not necessarily be killed it if it were found but, "We want to know where it is."

It was not known what species of shark was involved.

George Burgess, curator of the International Shark Attack File at the University of Florida, said, "It was most likely a great white shark judging by the nature of the wounds."

Burgess said great white sharks are not uncommon in the cool Pacific waters off California.

The last reported fatal shark attack in the region was in 1959, according to the International Shark Attack file, which is run by the Florida Museum of Natural History.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

I Couldn't Make It Up If I Tried...

Some days I just get to sit back and report what's out there. And it's not even from the National Enquirer - it's from Reuters!

For your reading pleasure...

Penis theft panic hits city...

By Joe Bavier
Reuters, Wed Apr 23, 2008 1:06 p.m. EDT

KINSHASA (Reuters) - Police in Congo have arrested 13 suspected sorcerers accused of using black magic to steal or shrink men's penises after a wave of panic and attempted lynchings triggered by the alleged witchcraft.

Reports of so-called penis snatching are not uncommon in West Africa, where belief in traditional religions and witchcraft remains widespread, and where ritual killings to obtain blood or body parts still occur.

Rumors of penis theft began circulating last week in Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of Congo's sprawling capital of some 8 million inhabitants. They quickly dominated radio call-in shows, with listeners advised to beware of fellow passengers in communal taxis wearing gold rings.

Purported victims, 14 of whom were also detained by police, claimed that sorcerers simply touched them to make their genitals shrink or disappear, in what some residents said was an attempt to extort cash with the promise of a cure.

"You just have to be accused of that, and people come after you. We've had a number of attempted lynchings. ... You see them covered in marks after being beaten," Kinshasa's police chief, Jean-Dieudonne Oleko, told Reuters on Tuesday.

Police arrested the accused sorcerers and their victims in an effort to avoid the sort of bloodshed seen in Ghana a decade ago, when 12 suspected penis snatchers were beaten to death by angry mobs. The 27 men have since been released.

"I'm tempted to say it's one huge joke," Oleko said.

"But when you try to tell the victims that their penises are still there, they tell you that it's become tiny or that they've become impotent. To that I tell them, 'How do you know if you haven't gone home and tried it'," he said.

Some Kinshasa residents accuse a separatist sect from nearby Bas-Congo province of being behind the witchcraft in revenge for a recent government crackdown on its members.

"It's real. Just yesterday here, there was a man who was a victim. We saw. What was left was tiny," said 29-year-old Alain Kalala, who sells phone credits near a Kinshasa police station.

(Editing by Nick Tattersall and Mary Gabriel)

Friday, April 18, 2008

We Interrupt Your Regularly Snarky Blog For...

Just like the Marines, you never use the term "former" to refer to non-practicing fag hags. We're not "former", we just retire and get married! Alas, as the best friend to a card-carrying Friend of Dorothy, I'm such a sucker for queens...



Last year, you may remember, I cut off 11 inches of hair to donate to people who need wigs due to cancer. As a cancer survivor myself, it was a very personal moment, and I don't regret a second of it, knowing somewhere some little kid can now have a wig with red hair just like theirs.

Through my dear friend (and kick-ass realtor!) Liz Biala, I met the most amazing person (and kick-ass hair stylist), Tomas. Turns out, he's throwing a fundraiser to raise money for an organization called Wigs for Kids. How cool is that? Here's your call to action:

1. Buy tickets and come out to fabulous night of silent auctioning and drag queen singing on Sunday, April 27 in Hillcrest!
2. Can't make it? Well, lucky for you there are still two ways to help the cause: A) Donate an item to the silent auction or B) Make a donation to the cause.

For more information, including a donation form, visit:
http://karadefrias.googlepages.com/divas-wigsforkids

If you choose to send a donation, please write "DIVAS fundraiser - San Diego" in the check's memo line so we can track the amount raised.

Love,
This retired fag hag

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Reunited And It Feels So Good

My cell phone is back in my possession after spending three days in my car while I was in Vegas at a conference. My MasterCard moment:
  • Winning at the craps table Wednesday night: $94
  • Winning at the craps table Thursday night: $117
  • Arriving home Friday night to find a FedEx package containing an offer from my new employer: Priceless
So yeah, last week was a wonderful week for me; I found out some other good news as well:
  1. The biopsy from my back came back normal, which means the cancer whose butt I kicked 8.5 years ago did NOT metastasize to my back. Yay!
  2. My brother arrived home safely from Iraq for his 2-week mid-deployment leave. Double yay!
  3. I got the most amazing job! Triple yay!

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Escape to Witch (Fire) Mountain

Xander's really come a long way since moving to San Diego. Don't get me wrong, he still has jackass tendencies now and then, but he's getting better every day.

He started sleeping outside his crate at night back in November, and then last week we began leaving him out while we're at working during the day.

In the bedroom, which was puppy-proofed...and the door's closed. He did great all last week while we were at work, so we thought it might be a good idea to take him camping with us this weekend.

You're laughing, I know. But it worked out! We were supposed to go to Joshua Tree, but it was full so we ended up at Palomar Mountain State Park campground. We went camping with three other fabulous couples, one of whom brought their dog, Halo. He and Xander have played before, and got along famously. I worried that Xander would be up all night barking, but as soon as we got in the tent he laid down between us and fell fast asleep.

Me, on the other hand...let's just say I should stop watching scary movies. I thought for sure there was a mountain lion lurking outside our tent when I heard crackling twigs -- it was a turkey! Ha!

Here's some pics from the trip:


Trees damaged by fall '07 Witch Fire


Halo doing his best Paris Hilton impersonation

The boys eat dinner

Clear skies, sunny days


Jeff fixes our light/radio - he's secretly Superman


Xander getting used to the woods


Hanging out around the (illegal) campfire

Marriage Inequality Hits Close to Home

This article hits particularly close to home as it mentions my best friend Michael, a web designer based in Orange County, California, and his partner, Ming. It doesn't take a genius to figure out what side of the fence I'm on.

Immigration not an option for all couples

Same-sex couples in which one partner is from another country seek ways to stay together.

By AMY TAXIN
The Orange County Register
Monday, April 14, 2008

IRVINE – Michael Fouquette feels lucky – he found a man, fell in love, and has been living happily in Orange County for five years.

Now, all he needs is a visa.

Fouquette, a 43-year-old Web designer, is banking on the U.S. government's visa lottery for skilled workers, hoping his Taiwanese partner, Ming-Jer Lee – who holds a doctorate in electrical engineering from UC Irvine – will be among the winners. That's because unlike straight couples, same-sex partners can't apply for a green card.

"They can't recognize our relationship for him to immigrate, or for us to stay together," said Fouquette, who met Lee, 39, shortly after he came to California for graduate school on a student visa. "We've been lucky. But should we have to (be)?"

About 35,000 people in the United States are in same-sex binational relationships, according to Immigration Equality, an advocacy group focused on immigration law for same-sex couples. Foreign partners usually strive to obtain a skilled-worker visa or employer-sponsored green card independently. Those who can't may wind up shuttling back and forth between countries on a travel visa, said Rachel Tiven, executive director of Immigration Equality.

"Nothing has the 'golden ticket' aspect that marriage does," she said. "The irony is, our couples say 'we're dying to have the opportunity to prove how bona fide these relationships are. … Gay and lesbian couples just want the same opportunity to prove their families deserve to stay together."

In fact, it can be easier for foreign same-sex couples to come here together temporarily than for a U.S. citizen to bring over his or her partner, said Louis Piscopo, an Anaheim-based immigration attorney. That's because U.S. immigration law prohibits giving visitor visas to people who intend to live here permanently but lets short-term workers apply to bring dependents with them when they take jobs in the United States, he said.

Generally speaking, a marriage was deemed valid in the United States so long as it was valid in the country where it occurred, immigration attorneys said. That changed a little over a decade ago when Congress passed a law defining marriage strictly as a between a man and a woman – ruling out the possibility for same-sex couples who marry abroad to seek immigration benefits.

In fact, some same-sex couples who plan to move to the United States are deciding not to get married abroad or seek domestic partnership recognition in states like California, fearing that U.S. immigration officers might deny them a travel visa because of their personal ties to a U.S. citizen.

Martha McDevitt-Pugh moved from Oakland to the Netherlands eight years ago to be with her partner. Now, she would like to return to California to be closer to her mother, who just turned 79, but hasn't yet found a way for her partner to obtain a visa. While the couple is married in the Netherlands, they don't qualify for a green card here.

"It's not very easy," said McDevitt-Pugh, who founded a group called Love Exiles to offer support to same-sex couples who are facing this predicament abroad. "It's a really insecure existence."

Immigration Equality is lobbying for a bill that would let same-sex couples petition for immigration benefits for their partners much as a straight couples do. Under the proposed Uniting American Families Act, same-sex "permanent partners" could present documents – joint tax filings, property records, bank accounts – to prove their relationship and petition for a green card.

But the bill died during the last two sessions of Congress and has languished for nearly a year in a House immigration subcommittee. One reason is the proposal faces opposition from lawmakers aiming to tighten immigration laws as well as those who oppose same-sex marriage.

Rep. John Campbell, R-Irvine, said the proposal could create more opportunities for fraud in an immigration system that lawmakers are struggling to tighten. "There are a number of well-known abuses where marriages have been arranged for someone to gain access to the United States," he said. "It would be even easier to do if you allowed domestic partnerships."

Getting any immigration bill through Congress with the issue so hot – especially in an election year – is unlikely.

"Immigration legislation, other than new restrictions, are not getting through Congress right now," said Louis DeSipio, political science professor at UC Irvine. "If every member of Congress could get his or her pet issue through, there's no pressure to come up with a broader compromise."

Until now, Fouquette and Lee say they have found ways to work within the system. The couple couldn't qualify for graduate housing at UC Irvine because they didn't form a domestic partnership under California law – precisely to avoid tampering with Lee's eligibility for certain visas. But the pair isn't too worried, knowing Lee has options because of his work in the semiconductor industry.

"I always have a plan," Lee said. "We have a plan for the worst (scenario)."

"Neither of us are complaining about the way things have worked out for us," said Fouquette, who started a home-based consulting business to be able to move in response to Lee's job and visa offers. "How can you complain too much? Because we don't have to leave, we don't have to split up. Compared to other couples, we're lucky."

Contact the writer: 714-796-7722 or ataxin@ocregister.com

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Life As I Know It

The world as I know it ceased to exist as of 7:42 this morning. That when I realized, as I sat in the terminal at San Diego International Airport, that my cell phone was in my car.

Which is in the parking garage.

About 2 miles from me.

For about 3.5 seconds I actually considered going back and getting it, but in that moment the absurdity of the situation hit me, and I remembered that there was a day (about 9 years ago now) that apparently I was able to function without a small black squawk box attached to my left ear.

People had to call me on this thing called a house phone and if I wasn't there they had to, horror of horrors -- and you may want to cover the eyes of young children -- leave a message on something called an answering machine. It was rough, not being able to reach someone the exact nanosecond you wanted to speak to them. But alas, that was a different time.

I'm in Vegas for a conference for three days with two coworkers, so I expect to go into cell phone-withdrawal within the next few hours. The shakes will begin; I'll lunge at any cell phone that rings just so I can feel like I have mine.

Then acceptance will set in, and I'm sure I'll embrace the rest of my time cell-phone free.

I think.

Monday, April 7, 2008

Chris Rocks Politics

Tea with Lemon always has witty stuff on his blog, but more importantly, sometimes I learn things from him. Take this morning, for example. He posted a wonderfully funny ditty about Chris Rock's take on the election, titled "The Black Crusaders Won't Be Pleased."

I learned the absurdity of the election is even funnier when coming from Rock's mouth (though, in all fairness, Jon Stewart, keep on rocking). I'm sitting here in my cube weeping silently from giggling so hard.

Here's an excerpt:

On President Bush:
"Bush has f*cked up so bad that he's made it hard for a white man to run for president. 'Gimme anything but another white man, please! Black man, white woman, giraffe, anything!' A white man's had that job for hundreds of years — and one guy f*cked it up for all of ya!"

On All the Candidates:
"Each candidate tells you how humble they are. No, you're not humble! Do you know how big your ego has to be to say you wanna be president of the United States? Do you know how much Puff Daddy juice you have to drink? How many Kanye injections you have to take?"

On Hillary:
"There's one thing Hillary Clinton's better at than everybody else, and one thing only — and that's forgiveness! Hillary Clinton is the greatest forgiver in the history of the world. Even Jesus knows: 'You really good at fo'giveness. I mean, I talk the talk, but you walk the walk!' "

On Obama:
"Barack Obama — he's a black man with two black names! Barack. Obama. He doesn't let his blackness sneak up on you. As soon as you hear Barack Obama you wonder, 'Does he have a spear?'

On a Black First Lady:
"Barack has a handicap the other candidates don't have: Barack Obama has a black wife. And I don't think a black woman can be first lady of the United States. Yeah, I said it! A black woman can be president, no problem. First lady? Can't do it. You know why? Because a black woman cannot play the background of a relationship. Just imagine telling your black wife that you're president? 'Honey, I did it! I won! I'm the president.' 'No, we the president! And I want my girlfriends in the Cabinet! I want Kiki to be secretary of state! She can fight!' "

Saturday, April 5, 2008

Viva Pasta - IKEA Meets Organic Goodness

Anyone who knows me knows that I don't get overly excited about good finds, building them up and overselling them to the point that there's no way they could meet expectations.

Oh wait, yes I do. Just ask my BFF Michael, who had to hear for months leading up to Christmas 2001 about how great his Christmas present was. (For the record, it was totally faboo that year: ylang ylang candles from Bath & Body Works. The reason they were perfect? For the third year running, that summer we'd attended our annual taping of "Will & Grace" in Hell-Ay, and in that ep Jack gave Grace a present, to which he said, "It's ylang ylang, yalike yalike?")

So yeah, I could possibly be accused of overhyping things just a smidge. In my defense, though, I usually deliver on the hype (see my rave on Little Britain - I dare you to watch that show and not love it.)

Which is why, with great fanfare, I hereby declare that Viva Pasta, located at 600 University Ave. in Hillcrest (between 6th & 7th Ave.), is the

Best. Thing. Ever.


The sign advertising "organic" caught my eye, so a friend and I entered this fast-casual eatery this afternoon after tooling around downtown San Diego. I should note that ever since we got back to San Diego, we've been incorporating a lot more organic food into our diet. I've noticed many more restaurants advertising it as well, which is exciting for us. Viva Pasta didn't disappoint.

For $6.95, you get your meal and an iced tea (chai or jasmine was today's choice). Upon entering, there's a table with laminated order cards (brilliantly reusable!) and you:
  • Pick the base meal: pasta, salad, or a sandwich (which comes with a side salad).
  • Customize the base as you see fit, which means pick your pasta and sauce, choose your bread and filling, or tell them what kind of salad you want.
  • Add one of seven or so proteins as you see fit (they're cool and will let you do half and half if you're like me and couldn't choose between the turkey meatballs and the rosemary chicken).
  • Add unlimited veggies and/or fruit (as appropriate).
  • Pay, then wait the short time for your meal to be delivered to your table!
The whimsical dining room is a pleasant study in IKEA meets Jamba Juice, and there were signs reminding you that a portion of the cost of your meal supports children and education through their ViVA Foundation. I tried the flavorful chicken curry salad baguette and the whole wheat pasta with turkey meatballs and chicken. I ate half of each and brought the rest home for my husband. My friend got one of the salads and pretty much licked her bowl clean.

The staff was personable, the food delicious, and the atmosphere spot-on. The portions are large for the price, and we both left pleasantly full (as opposed to what I call "fat cow full" - you know, so full that you want to explode and have to undo a button on the way home).

I highly recommend taking the drive to Hillcrest to enjoy the inexpensive organic goodness of Viva Pasta.